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Does it feel like you are still trapped in winter?

Spring means different things, depending on where you are in the world!

Extreme weather can be exciting - from the warm safety of our homes!

If Momma Ain't Happy...

Marriage can be strained by a child with disabilities.

To be fair, no one looked happy in old time photos. I’m sure she was a lovely lady in person.

To be fair, no one looked happy in old time photos. I’m sure she was a lovely lady in person.

When a child is struggling, parents struggle, too.

  • What is the best way to help our child?

  • Who is right?

  • Why is the teacher always calling me at work?

Sometimes, we blame ourselves.

Sometimes, we blame each other.

Don’t worry. This is a stock photo, and the parents are just acting. So is that adorable boy.

Don’t worry. This is a stock photo, and the parents are just acting. So is that adorable boy.

It is even worse when the school professionals are telling you stuff about your child that you disagree with.

Watch our expert Cindi explain your rights as a parent in this 50 second video.

We know you have the best interest of your child at heart. We know you love your partner, and wish it would get easier.

We know.

We've been there.

That's why we have created a variety of resources to help families just like yours.

No obligation.

No judgement.

Just support for your ADHD and autism journey.

We believe in you and are cheering you on. Let us know if you have any questions.

Hurricane Heist: Just Enjoy the Ride

You either loved this movie when it came out in the theater, or you will love this movie after watching it on Netflix.

The Hurricane Heist (2018: PG-13) tagline: $600 million stolen at 600 miles per hour. See what I mean? This is a fun action movie set in the middle of a natural disaster.

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Don’t complain about the unknown actors. You may not recognize anyone in the film, but all are good actors who are having fun playing their good guy or bad guy roll. Or are they the good guy???

Ryan Kwanten  and  Toby Kebbell  play brothers who band together to stop the bad guys, even if they don’t look related at all.

Ryan Kwanten and Toby Kebbell play brothers who band together to stop the bad guys, even if they don’t look related at all.

When you need your computer fixed, the tech people can wear whatever they want, so don’t complain about that, either.

Who says computer geeks need to dress like nerds?  Ed Birch  and  Melissa Bolona  dress for the storm.

Who says computer geeks need to dress like nerds? Ed Birch and Melissa Bolona dress for the storm.

Heros need to hydrate. And eat. And go to the bathroom. It always annoys me when action stars spend the entire movie fighting and running and never drink anything except alcohol. See our heroes taking care of their basic needs, in addition to taking care of the bad guys.

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The storm is the star of the movie.

The fancy storm chaser car  The Dominator  is also one of the stars of the movie.

The fancy storm chaser car The Dominator is also one of the stars of the movie.

I could include links to complaints by meteorologists about the accuracy of the movie. But I wont. IT’S A MOVIE! Just relax and enjoy itl

Watch this movie trailer. If you find yourself grinning, you will like this movie.

Fun movie!

What are some movies you like that people just need to stop complaining and just enjoy the ride?

Restaurant #3: How Do You Eat An Elephant?

How do you eat an elephant?

One bite at a time.

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How do you break a bad habit?

One day at a time.

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How do you eat at every restaurant in your town?

One street at a time.

Some things in life are overwhelming.  School, work, family, finances.  How do you handle it?

1. Step back

2. Take a deep breath

3. Break down the situation into small parts that you can tackle one at a time.

For our Cuisine Quest to eat at every restaurant in our town, I was feeling overwhelmed, until I looked at the small picture.  I looked at one street.

This one-mile-long stretch has strip malls, auto repair shops, a church, apartments, businesses, and 12 restaurants!

There are chain restaurants: El Torrito, Starbucks, Subway, El Pollo Loco, and Yum Yum Donuts.  That’s 5 restaurants we can skip.

There is one catering place that is open for lunch, and one pancake house that isn’t open for dinner.  That’s 2 restaurants we can skip.

That leaves 5 more restaurants that we are supposed to eat at.  Restaurant #1 and #2 are on this street, so we already checked them off the list.

Only 3 restaurants left!  That is very manageable!

Restaurant #3 is a “pizza and grill”.  It seems to be mostly for takeout, but they do have a nice small dining area in front of the order counter, with tablecloths and a TV to watch the game.

I assumed they would basically have pizza and a few sides.  But they have an extensive menu of sandwiches, pastas, salads, and sides.  It was hard to choose, so we went with their recommendations.

A simple salad came with the dinner.

A simple salad came with the dinner.

The garlic bread was also included, and perfectly tender and had good flavor.

The garlic bread was also included, and perfectly tender and had good flavor.

The chef recommended his cheese steak.  The photo isn’t attractive, but in my husband’s expert opinion, the sandwich was tasty!

The chef recommended his cheese steak. The photo isn’t attractive, but in my husband’s expert opinion, the sandwich was tasty!

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Would we come back again?  We have to, so we can try their pizza!  But, even though the dining area was pleasant, we would probably get it to go. Two forks up!

When you feel overwhelmed, how do you break a big situation into small steps?

Partner Costumes for an Unwilling Partner

I enjoy making and wearing costumes.

Historical.   1890’s and 1790’s.

Historical. 1890’s and 1790’s.

Cosplay.   Get it?  I’m Olaf the Snowman!

Cosplay. Get it? I’m Olaf the Snowman!

Halloween.   What does the fox say?

Halloween. What does the fox say?

My now college-aged daughters grew up wearing homemade costumes, and now create them for themselves.

My husband, on the other hand, does not like dressing in costume. In fact, I cannot show you the photos of him in his Hunger Games costume.

Hunger Games  cosplay.  We look good, my  husband  looks miserable (so I edited him out).

Hunger Games cosplay. We look good, my husband looks miserable (so I edited him out).

In this video lesson, I show how to create one example of a partner costume, for when your partner is unwilling.

What is the issue? Being comfortable? Looking unusual? Both of these issues go away when you dress up as the American Gothic painting!

What are some other ideas for partner costumes with an unwilling partner?

Wishing Your Child Better Doesn't Work

Your child has ADHD.  Or autism.  The diagnosis isn’t a death sentence, but some of the wishes you have for your family are dying.

  • You wish you could go to family activities without Aunt Margaret criticizing your child’s behavior.

  • You wish your child could finish school projects without last minute drama.

  • You wish the teacher would like your child.

  • You wish you had peace in your home.

Teacher scolding child.

Teacher scolding child.

Do you feel stuck?  Do you avoid certain people because they make you feel like a bad parent?  Do you feel you have done all you can, yet school is still awful?

Maybe you can just try harder.

Oh, please. 

Insanity is doing the same thing over and over, and expecting different results.

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STOP.  JUST STOP.

Make a better choice.

We have created our ADHD Parent Master Course:  Knowledge is Power to help you.  To make a difference in your child’s life.  To make a difference in your family.

Simply watch our 11 video lessons along with over 30 brief expert answers to questions parents are often unwilling to ask.

You are busy. Everyone is busy. This video course is like having access to experts whenever you want!

Binge watch the course.  Or listen to it as you would an audiobook.  Or watch a little at a time.  Owning the course gives you unlimited access to Crystal and Cindi on your own schedule.

With this course, you will get answers you need.

  • What ADHD is,

  • How to navigate school for your child with ADHD,

  • Where you can get help.

Knowledge is power! 

Instead of wishing things could get better for your child, you are taking action.

Instead of trying the same thing over and over, you will understand your child, and know what to do.

Imagine having these benefits:

  • You will save your sanity once you learn exactly how ADHD truly is a brain-based disorder. 

  • You will save thousands of dollars on advocate and attorney fees. You will be able to navigate the school system like a pro!

  • You will save hours of your limited time because you will know where you can get the help you need for your child.

It’s time to decide.

Join now!

PS. if you have questions, see the Frequently Asked Questions section on our product page.

Do You Wish You Felt Special?

You are special.  You are talented.  You are smart. You are creative.  You are thoughtful.  You are hard working. You are brave.

While we’re at it, let’s add: You are good looking!

Bloody faced boy

Bloody faced boy

If someone said that to us, it would warm our hearts. 

Sometimes, we do get to hear words of affirmation.

Sometime, it feels like days go by with only complaints and demands reaching our ears.

It is too easy to focus on the negative.  Let’s choose to see the bright side of life.

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Maybe today you will have someone make you feel special.

Maybe today it will fall on you to make other people feel special.

If that is the case, know that YOU ARE APPRECIATED.  Even if it doesn’t feel like it.  You are valuable and you are important.

You are special strawberries

You are special strawberries

Think of your child with ADHD or autism.  How often do they see frowny faces or frustrated faces?

Our ADHD Parent Master Course:  Knowledge is Power can help.

You are busy.  Do you really need to add watching an online video course to your to-do list?

  • Yes.  Take this seriously.  Our ADHD Parent Master Course: Knowledge is Power is based on decades of experience helping people live in harmony with ADHD, not in conflict with ADHD.

You are busy. 

  • Did you know you can listen to the videos while you go about your day?  Think of them as a podcast or audio book.

  • And you can start and stop the program at any time, taking it up again when you have time.

If you are facing autism or other disabilities, we have resources for you, also, right here.

Crystal helping clients

Crystal helping clients

Cindi helping clients

Cindi helping clients

If we sat down with you for an hour or two, we could help you understand that ADHD is a brain-based disorder, teach you how to navigate school for your child with ADHD, and guide you to accessible resources to help.  We wish we could sit down with each and every one of you.  If you are in San Diego, please reach out for an appointment.

But since we can’t meet individually with everyone we wish to help, we created this ADHD Master Course:  Knowledge is Power.  We recommend you join.  Your peace of mind is worth the price!

When Wishes Backfire

Do you get jealous when someone’s wish is granted?  Just a little?

Why can’t I be one of the richest couples in the world?

Melinda & Bill Gates

Melinda & Bill Gates

Why can’t Marie Kondo come to my house to make it life-changing-ly tidy?

Why can’t my baby be as adorable as hers?

Adorable baby girl

Adorable baby girl

You don’t have to tell us.  But as much as we strive to be positive and encouraging, sometimes it pinches just a little when someone else gets their wish.

So today let’s look at some wishes that turned out to be bad news.

Wish-failure.

Golden apple - pretty, but not edible!

Golden apple - pretty, but not edible!

Wish-failure:  King Midas.

Everything he touches turns to gold.  That’s a great thing, until he gets hungry.  Until his precious daughter gives him a kiss on the cheek.

A solid gold daughter.

Bummer.

Beach Boys album

Beach Boys album

Wish-failure:  The Beach Boys singing, “I wish they all could be California girls.” 

 

(This is too well written for us to do anything but copy directly from the clever blog post “Wishes that Backfire” by writer suesspiciousminds.)

Take the Beach Boys lyric - of course any girl could be a California girl, simply by moving to California. Every female would become a "California girl", probably wrecking the local infrastructure and irretrievable breaking the San Andreas fault, and sending their beloved State into the ocean.

There are now no girls in China, India, or Brazil, or anywhere else. This leaves the population of those places to riot, cease work, and eventually die out, and there's no production of any of the world's vital resources, because every female living on the planet is in California, who will now have no chocolate, or coffee, or alcohol, or rice, or meat. Life in California will be crowded, and bereft of life's essentials. Everywhere else would be half-empty and bereft of life's essentials. Let us hope that none of the Beach Boys ever come across a genie in a bottle.

As true California girls, we're pleading with you. Don't let this happen!

California girls and boys.

California girls and boys.

Wish-Failure:  Sick Days

Have you ever sent your kid to school, hoping they weren’t really sick?  Did you regret it?

Yes.  And yes.

We miss Calvin & Hobbs!

We miss Calvin & Hobbs!

Wish-Failure:  Pets are Good For Us

You wish you had a pet, then your husband brings home a wild and crazy kitten. Or worse.

True story.

Wild snake in man’s hand

Wild snake in man’s hand

Wish-Failure:  Time for Friends

You wish you had time to reconnect with old friends, and once you do, you remember why you lost touch to begin with.

Sad, but true.

Bored women.

Bored women.

Wishing and yearning is all well and good.  Striving to better ourselves is the American way. 

Just remember to be gracious towards others who get their wish.  It could be you.

It could be better it’s not you!

Woman with large snake.

Woman with large snake.

PS.   We wish good days for you and your child with ADHD. We want to help!  Our video course is like having access to your own expert any time you want! Please click today to join our ADHD Master Course:  Knowledge is Power.  All the details are here.  If you are experiencing autism, we have help here, too.

List-Makers Rule the World!

October 30 is National Checklist Day.  Honest!

Extreme workout checklist.  Whew!

Extreme workout checklist. Whew!

Just kidding.  That’s HIS checklist, not ours.

Some of you are list-makers.

  • Do you keep a list of movies you want to watch, books you want to read, restaurants you want to try?

  • Do you start off the new year with a list of goals?

  • Do you have a list of chores for each member of your family?

And the ultimate sign you are a list maker:

  • Do you ever get something done, then go back and write it on your To-Do List, just so you can cross it off?

Lovely list-maker

Lovely list-maker

A to-do list is like a wish list, except you are more likely to do the things on your to-do list.

A wish list is like those New Year’s resolutions.  “I wish I could lose weight.”  “I wish I could put more money in savings.”

Wishful thinking.

Yet to-do lists seem to compel us to take action.

Hooray!

Taking action is a good thing! (Unless robbing a bank is on your To-Do list).

Bank robber silhouette.

Bank robber silhouette.

What about our children?  Can we make to-do lists for them?

A chore chart is a to-do list. 

GO TO SCHOOL LIST

  • Eat breakfast

  • Get dressed

  • Brush teeth & hair

  • Put on socks and shoes

  • Get backpack

  • Get lunch

Beautiful school morning!

Beautiful school morning!

Easy, right?  Mornings should be a breeze!

We wish!

Watch this 38 second video to see what our expert says about to-do lists.

Our children need our help.  Even more so if they are affected by ADHD or autism or other disabilities.

A list could help.

“Remember, they need to keep it short,” says our expert Cindi.

You can’t wish away ADHD.  But there is hope for your child with ADHD. Here are some list-making strategies that parents find helpful:

  • Making a list is a great form of mental rehearsal, of going through the tasks and goals of the day. As you help your child make a list, talk about each step so they can visualize doing it.

  • Many kids with ADHD have poor handwriting due to problems with fine motor coordination.  Writing and talking through the list is more important the reading the list.  Writing on ‘special’ paper, such as sticky notes or official planning paper or even a tablet, can help.

  • Keep the list short; three items is a good list. Watch for when your child gets frustrated with an item on the list and help them change the failure message.  Be their cheerleader!

You are a resourceful parent. Do you use special paper for your child’s to-do lists?  What have you found works for to-do lists? How will you be your child’s cheerleader today?  Let us know so we can share with other parents just like you.

Every day should be Valentine’s Day!

Every day should be Valentine’s Day!

PS.  This is just a small example of the benefit we have in ADHD Parent Master Course:  Knowledge is Power.  Learn more here. Join us! And if you’re experiencing autism, see our other resources here.

We Have What You Need to Make Your Wish for Your Child Come True

We’ve been sharing (and laughing a bit) about wishes.

We all have wishes for ourselves, our families, and for our children.

Some families are dealing with a diagnosis of ADHD or autism.  We wish to help make your family’s journey smoother.

Happy jumping boy

Happy jumping boy

Today we’re excited to announce our ADHD Parent Master Course:  Knowledge is Power!

We created this course because we see so many parents struggling. 

  • What’s wrong with my son?  Why can’t he act like other people’s kids?

  • How come the teacher is always sending my child to detention? 

  • Where can I get answers?  What is the solution to fix my child?

ADHD is real.  ADHD is caused by differences in the brain.  Not by differences in thoughts or dreams.  By biological differences. Differences your child was born with.

Does that sound like your child is condemned to be an outcast?  Someone who only can relate to others by fighting or through video games?  Someone who will never hold down a job?

Will they ever be able to live on their own?

Will anyone love them?

PLEASE?

Frustrated parents

Frustrated parents

We wish for the best for our children.  We wish for them to learn and grow into successful, happy adults.  Adults who have their own families and careers.  And who call home occasionally!

We can help you now, when your child is young. Now is the time to take the first step in the right direction.

Get ready to refocus your child’s bright, yet unfocused, mind!

Our ADHD Parent Master Course:  Knowledge is Power online video course was created by us.  If you join, by the end of this ADHD Parent Master Course, you will have the three pillars of knowledge.  You will know

  1. What ADHD is,

  2. How to navigate school for your child with ADHD,

  3. Where you can get help.

Knowledge is power! 

Instead of wishing things could get better for your child, you are taking action.

I wish…

I wish…

Imagine having these benefits:

  1. You will save your sanity once you learn exactly how ADHD truly is a brain-based disorder. 

  2. You will save thousands of dollars on advocate and attorney fees. You will be able to navigate the school system like a pro!

  3. You will save hours of your limited time because you will know where you can get the help you need for your child.

You have good days.  You have bad days. 

Do you ever wish you had more good days?  That the bad days wouldn’t be so rough?

Are you doing well with your child at home and at school, just to have a set back? 

  • A tantrum at the grocery store?

  • A stern email from the teacher?

  • Another tardy because he couldn’t get dressed on time?

  • A lecture from your nosey neighbor on how they raised their children right?

Teacher scolding a child

Teacher scolding a child

Are you tired of the endless struggle?

Watching our 11 video lessons and over 30 short expert answer videos will give you the tools you need to guide your child to their best life.

If you are facing autism or another disability, you can simply click here to see our other resources.

Our ADHD Master Course:  Knowledge is Power is worth your peace of mind.

Learn more.

Mischievous boy in class

Mischievous boy in class

PS.  We want to show you what’s possible for you and your child.  But you DO need to act today.  Your child and your sanity is worth it!  All the details are here.  If you are experiencing autism or another disability, click here to see our other resources.

Isn't it Romantic?

Nope.

Skip this movie.

Re-watch your favorite rom-com instead.

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What’s a rom-com?

A romantic comedy. A love story with laughs. A chick-flik.

Boy meets Girl.

They fight. Or they work together against an obstacle. Or they don’t realize they are right for each other.

Characters grow. Boy and Girl finally are together in love.

Three rom-coms to watch instead.

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Don’t give up on me! Yes, this is a silly movie. Ridiculous, even. But also touching. And funny.

Eugenio Derbez lives off the wealth of older women. When he gets dumped, he must move in with his estranged sister Salma Hayek and her son Raphael Alejandro.

If you’ve seen Instructions Not Included, you know that Eugenio Derbez is capable of both slapstick and tender heartbreak. You get both in this movie, plus Salma Hayek gets to be more than just the comedic foil.

All the small parts are played by well-known actors hamming it up: Rob Lowe, Kristen Bell, Mckenna Grace, Raquel Welch, Linda Lavin, Renee Taylor, Rob Corddry, Rob Riggle, Rob Huebel, Michael Cera, and Mather Zickel.

Not pure rom-com, but enough romance and enough comedy to count.

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Before romantic comedies were called rom-coms, they were called screwball comedies.

This 1940 movie may be in black and white, but the story is still strong. Formerly married co-workers Cary Grant tries to keep Rosalind Russell from leaving town to marry Ralph Bellamy. Watch how Cary manipulates his introduction to Rosalind’s fiancee.

Clever writing! Great acting, with subtle facial expressions conveying the internal dialogue.

Less screwball comedy than others in the era, less rom-com than modern films, this movie has the fastest dialogue around a smart story-line among actors that crackle and snap!

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Finally, a traditional rom-com. Grieving widow David Duchovny meets medically damaged Minnie Driver. It’s the year 2000, and everyone is sweet and well-meaning and believes in the value of family. Funny, with great supporting characters. But watch out - we bet you’ll tear up a little before the end!

What are your favorite rom-coms?

What is the Last Thing You Wished for Yourself?

Would you consider New Year’s Resolutions to be wishes?

New Year, New You

New Year, New You

The top 5 New Year’s resolutions of 2019

  • Eat Healthier

  • Exercise More

  • Lose Weight

  • Save More and Spend Less

  • Learn a new skill or hobby

All are good for us. Of those, only one feels like any fun.

We could also look at what dead people wish for us.   As in, their last wishes. 

We told you about Vera Anderson’s traveling ashes. 

Have you heard about Canadian Charles Millar?  Charles wished his estate be given to the woman who gives birth to the most babies in the ten years after his death.

What?

Adorable crying baby!

Adorable crying baby!

Charles was a Toronto lawyer who never married and had no children. But he did have a sense of humor. Charles liked to play pranks.  One of his favorite was to leave $1 bills on the sidewalk, then watch the expressions of passersby as they furtively pocketed them. 

His will had all sorts of silly requests.

  • He willed the use of his Jamaica vacation home to three lawyers who did not get along with each other.

  • He willed one share of the town brewery to every practicing protestant minister in Toronto (it was the 1920’s and ministers everywhere were preaching against Demon Rum).

But his biggest wish was to give the remainder of his estate to the Toronto mother who gave birth to the most children in the ten years immediately following his death.

Charles died in 1926, igniting The Great Stork Derby of the 1930’s in Canada!

The Great Story Derby book

The Great Story Derby book

It was the Great Depression, and readers all across Canada followed stories of the families in the running for the most-babies prize.

In the end, four women split the prize.  Guess how many babies each had in those ten years.

Nine!

Winning family with nine children

Winning family with nine children

Each received $125,000.  A lot of money in 1936. A lot of money now.

Can you imagine the diapers?  The stretch marks? The endless trips to the pediatrician and, worst of all, the decades of PTA meetings?

Two other women were disqualified.  One had two stillbirths, and the other had babies with someone else in addition to with her husband.  But the courts gave them a consolation prize of $12,500 each.

Winning family with 12 children.

Winning family with 12 children.

Forget boring resolutions and the silly wishes of dead people.

What do you wish for yourself

If time and money were no concern, what would you realistically do?

What do you wish for your family?

I Dream of Jeannie

I Dream of Jeannie

PS.  It’s like a genie gave you three wishes.  One for yourself, one for your family, one bonus wish.  Do you know the old genie joke?  If you wish for world peace… you’ll find you are the only person left in the world!

We Wish We Could Eat All the Sugar We Want Without Consequence

It’s hard when your diet won’t let you eat the delicious foods out there.

Yummy ice cream sundae!

Yummy ice cream sundae!

  • Paleo:  No Doritos, no ice cream, no brownies

  • Gluten-free:  No stuffed crust pizza, no birthday cake

  • Atkins:  no Valentines candy, no sourdough bread

  • Mediterranean:  no juicy hamburger

  • Vegan:  no grilled cheese sandwiches or mac-n-cheese

  • The Daniel Fast:  no creamy milkshakes

Cute baby on scale

Cute baby on scale

Yes, we all know too much of a good thing is bad for us.  Too many salty snacks make us retain water.  Too much sugar makes us gain weight.

We say that moderation is key.  And life is too short to skip dessert. Or chips and guacamole. Or loaded baked potatoes. Or [insert your favorite guilty pleasure food here]. 

Wait…didn’t we just say moderation is key?

It’s easy to feel guilty about what we eat.

But what about our children?

Does sugar cause ADHD? Or make autism worse?

Donuts are delicious!

Donuts are delicious!

Does letting your teen eat cake make them hyperactive?

Cake is delicious!

Cake is delicious!

If your child has been diagnosed with ADHD or autism, or you are wondering about their hyperactivity or lack of attention, you may feel guilty letting them eat sweets.  Even for a special occasion.

Take a look at what this 42 second video has to say.

ADHD is not our fault.  We did not cause our children to ‘come down with’ ADHD.

Sneezing mom and child.

Sneezing mom and child.

Our expert Crystal says, “You just need to find out the strategies that work best for your child.”

You can’t wish away ADHD.  But there is hope for your child with ADHD. Here are some strategies that parents find helpful:

  • When doing homework, a short ‘movement break’ can help a child with ADHD refocus on completing the work. 

  • A small fidget toy is not a distraction for a child with ADHD.  It helps them relax and be alert.  Try giving your child two quarters to rub together between their fingers.

  • Children with ADHD feel it when adults don’t seem to like them.  Love them and be their cheerleader.  Let them know you are on their side.  At the end of the day, did your child receive more corrections, or more compliments?

You are a resourceful parent.  What will you try for a ‘movement break’?  What have you found works for a fidget toy? How will you be your child’s cheerleader today?  Let us know so we can share with other parents just like you.

Then go eat a cookie!

Cookies are delicious!

Cookies are delicious!

PS. Those macaroons would be much better in color.... And much tastier if they were not behind glass....What do you wish you could eat without consequences?

Her Dream Came True – After She Was Dead!

Her dying wish was to be a jetsetter.

Someone who travels the world for pleasure.

Have you heard of Vera Anderson?  Vera Anderson was an Idaho woman stricken with emphysema and cardiovascular disease, yet she still dreamed of the day she would travel the world.  Being tied to an oxygen tank kept her from taking any journeys at all.

She died surrounded by her children and grandchildren in 2001 at age 78.

Her son Ross was determined to fulfill Vera’s dying wish.

But how?

Ross sent her ashes to more than 250 cities worldwide!

Dead Mum’s World Tour

Dead Mum’s World Tour

This included all 50 states and 191 countries.

Ross packaged the ashes in sealed plastic bags, added a note asking its reader to find a nice place for the ashes, and sent them to the head postmaster in the main post offices of the capitals of all 50 states as well as capitals of every country.

Soon, pictures and letters poured in detailing what had been done with the ashes.

In Thailand, her ashes were sprinkled along the Chao Phraya River.  Her ashes are on the icecaps of Antarctica, and the state capitol grounds in Alabama. The director general of the Ukrainian State Enterprise of Posts wrote, “We have fulfilled your wish as for the last will of your mother.  Accept our condolences concerning your bereavement.” 

There are seven continents.

There are seven continents.

Vera Anderson is in the Guinness World Records as the “Most Traveled Ashes.”

But really, did she do anything to deserve that record?

We think so. 

  • She raised her son right.

  • She put in writing exactly what she wanted done with her ashes.

Vera had an amazing son. “There are so many people in so many places who have put her ashes places that she’d love,” Ross shared.  Think of the blessing he received each time a letter or photo came from all over the world!

You have amazing children, too.  Perhaps they drive you crazy at times, maybe they make your life chaotic.  But each child is special, and is your gift. 

Even on the days you wish there was a return policy on children!

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Happy Jumping Boy

What did you take away from Vera and Ross’s story?  Are you disgusted?  Surprised?  Inspired?  What would you have done with her ashes?  Write us back and let us know.

PS.  What do you wish you could do sooner than later?

Create an Eye-Catching Animated Ad in 5 Easy Steps

It is easy to create memorable ads for your business. 

All you need is the right tools.

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  1. Choose a quote you like at Brainy Quote 

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2. Pick out good background video footage from Pond5 .

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3. Use a template at Animoto to plug in your quote and video. 

4. Select music.

5. Preview your work, render, download, share!

And here’s the final product:

Do it yourself, or have Joy Lab create amazing stock footage ads for you!

Restaurant #2: Too Much Competition

Look at all the lovely, identical snakes for sale at the  pet store ! How can I choose?

Look at all the lovely, identical snakes for sale at the pet store! How can I choose?

How do you stand out in a crowded field?

Our town has a taco shop on nearly every street. How can they all stay in business?

Our Cuisine Quest to eat at every restaurant in our town took us to a taco shop we had never been to before.  My husband was excited that they had posole.  Posole is a soup with hominy and meat, often served with tortillas, cilantro, radishes, avocado slices, cabbage, or onions.

Not many taco shops have red posole! You can see how difficult it is to make  here .

Not many taco shops have red posole! You can see how difficult it is to make here.

I ordered a carnitas plate, which is pork served with items to eat separately, or together in a tortilla.

The pork carnitas were delicious, not too fatty, and enough for leftovers.

The pork carnitas were delicious, not too fatty, and enough for leftovers.

Again, my question is, how do you stand out in a crowd?

Personal attention.  For this restaurant, the lady at the counter seemed to know everyone who came in.  These individuals and families come again and again because they know someone will show that they are happy to see them!

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Would we come back again?  For me, since there are so many taco shops in my town, I will be more picky.  I want a place with Coke products.  And, I prefer my guacamole to be more chunky.  Yes, those are little things, and with this restaurant being so friendly I am uncomfortable saying this, but I would go elsewhere.

My husband will be back again for that posole!  Unless the next taco shop has posole that is just as good….One fork up.

How do you stand out in a crowded field?

Think Before You Speak

John Quincy Adams had yet to become 6th president of the United States.  That would happen decades later.  He was a young man sent on a diplomatic mission to the Netherlands and wrote a love letter to his fiance, Louisa Catherine Johnson, waiting for him in England.

WHAT A DASHING YOUNG MAN JOHN WAS!

WHAT A DASHING YOUNG MAN JOHN WAS!

Listen in on how John woos Louisa:

February 28, 1797
I have always believed and still believe you to possess a virtuous heart, an intelligent mind, an accomplished person and a gentle disposition, all of which qualities contributed to inspire the strong affection which I have for you: but I never seriously believed or pretended that I believed you exempt from the common and universal imperfections of humanity; or from occasional errors of the mind, and varieties of temper.

She still married him. 

Would you?

When writing, we get the chance to reread what we wrote and improve it, making our meaning clear.  

Is this really how John thought he should write to the lady he asked to marry?

When speaking, we don't get the chance to go back and change what we say.

Often, the old saying is best:

If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all.

Motivational speaker Sarita Maybin has a best selling book that guides us in our speaking in the workplace

 
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Joining Toastmasters will help you be a better off-the-cuff speaker.  You will improve making your self clear in a courteous manner, through the practice of answering unexpected questions at each weekly meeting.  Plus, it's fun!

 

If you want to hear more about John and Catherine Adam's contentious marriage in the years before their presidency, I recommend Michael O'Brien's book Mrs. Adams in Winter:  A Journey in the Last Days of Napoleon.

Three Ways to Benefit from a Business Referral Group

You meet with the same people each week.  How do you make the most out of your time in your networking group?

1. Attend consistently.  Some groups levy a fine if you miss.  Some groups ask you to leave.  Regular attendance is easy to quantify.  Actually being in attendance is different.  Is your mind in the meeting?  Or are you thinking through your to-do list?  Even worse, are you scanning your phone when you should be paying attention?

You may be important and essential, but you will benefit from putting your phone away during your referral group meeting.

You may be important and essential, but you will benefit from putting your phone away during your referral group meeting.

2. Thirty seconds with specifics.  How many people stand up for their 30-second introduction and say the same thing week after week?  This is wasted opportunity!  If your business creates or sells something, describe a different thing each meeting.  If you are a consultant, give a different example of a specific type of person you help each week.

Instead of "I'm looking for someone who wants shoes", each week dwell on a different type of shoe and the type of person who wants them.

Instead of "I'm looking for someone who wants shoes", each week dwell on a different type of shoe and the type of person who wants them.

3. If you can't say something nice... Don't talk about other members behind their back, unless it is to speak highly of them or their business. Trash talk causes unease and discord. Trust comes over time; don't do anything to jeopardize that trust.  As the saying goes, we do business with people we know, like and trust.

Your local chamber of commerce is a great place for networking!

Your local chamber of commerce is a great place for networking!

Here's some other great articles to help you get the most out of your networking group!

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